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December 4, 2014
我只是真心想帮你，
我没有其他意思，
只是在提议一些可能行得通的方式，
可是，
就让你把狗看待，
叫来就来，
叫闭嘴就闭嘴。
我知道你这大女人不需要我的帮忙，
我只是认为身为男朋友，
就要尽最大的努力让女友幸福快乐，
献出我的想法，
难道有错吗？
you will never understand what i have to live through everyday.
i made this choice, and i have to live with the consequences.
you do not get to stab me in the wound and say you understand how it feels to be hurt, to be guilty everyday every night every second.
no one gets to do that but me.
我没有其他意思，
只是在提议一些可能行得通的方式，
可是，
就让你把狗看待，
叫来就来，
叫闭嘴就闭嘴。
我知道你这大女人不需要我的帮忙，
我只是认为身为男朋友，
就要尽最大的努力让女友幸福快乐，
献出我的想法，
难道有错吗？
you will never understand what i have to live through everyday.
i made this choice, and i have to live with the consequences.
you do not get to stab me in the wound and say you understand how it feels to be hurt, to be guilty everyday every night every second.
no one gets to do that but me.
November 22, 2014
November 12, 2014
November 11, 2014
October 10, 2014
September 22, 2014
August 26, 2014
August 24, 2014
August 23, 2014
June 29, 2014
June 6, 2014
May 20, 2014
April 4, 2014
April 2, 2014
March 19, 2014
March 13, 2014
March 11, 2014
Let’s get one thing straight: No one is completely and utterly an introvert. People aren’t either introverts or extroverts; they are a combination of both. However, some people are much more introverted than others. Those who fall on the extreme of the introverted side of the introvert-extrovert spectrum often have habits that vary little from person to person.
We do like to keep to ourselves a lot of the time, but not all of the time. We’re not quite as asocial as most people would have us believe, but there is a good reason it seems that way from the outside. Most of us have friends who are introverts if we aren’t introverts ourselves.
Understanding introversion is important because most of us have the wrong beliefs when it comes to our less-than outgoing friends.
It’s even more important if you, yourself, are introverted because you very well could be missing out while trying to adhere to some unrealistic definition of yourself as a person. Here are a few habits of those we like to call introverts:
1. We like to take walks. Lots and lots of walks.
We are observers by nature – and what better setting to observe than the outdoors as we stroll by? Our setting of choice will vary from individual to individual, some of us liking urban settings while others preferring mother nature as a walking buddy. Walking is probably our favorite activity because it allows us to think without being interrupted, allows us to observe others and the world around us without being questioned, and gives us some exercise. What could be better?
2. We have no problem lying at home, doing nothing but rummaging through our thoughts.
We like to think… a lot. Sure, you can argue that we all think all the time, but we especially like to be conscious of our thoughts. We like to observe them from a third-person perspective, not as ourselves. We like to think about the way we think about things.
3. Books are our poison of choice… but we like movies, too.
We’re huge fans of stories. They allow us to lead lives we would otherwise never be able to live. We can delve into books, movies, or TV marathons of detectives, serial killers, race car drivers, astronauts, zombie hunters, warlocks… We love to use our imaginations, forming a visual only intensifies our experience.
4. We enjoy talking to people, just not as much as most people do.
Believe it or not, we’re not asocial – at least not most of us. However, don’t necessarily expect us to be going around introducing ourselves to everyone. It’s not that we don’t want to meet them, but we’d prefer to observe them first. Then, after observing and judging them, we (more often than not) don’t want to meet them. But that’s the way it goes for most people; we just don’t even bother making the introduction so it’s less awkward when we decide not to continue or start a conversation.
5. Our minds are our playgrounds – sometimes quite literally.
Some call it their mind palace. Some their castle. Mine, personally, is a giant library. Introverts, with enough practice, are especially talented at creating inner worlds for themselves where they can store their memories, experiences and imaginary ponderings. We can spend hours just roaming about thinking things over and running through old experiences.
Some will argue that it’s better to just focus on living in the moment, but the truth is, most moments aren’t worth living. Why not go back and revisit those that are, or create new ones from scratch?
6. We prefer observing over interacting.
We do like to interact, but only with certain people. We are very picky when it comes to a lot of things, especially individuals we interact with. It’s much more fun for us to simply sit or stand on the sideline for a bit and gaze upon the crowd. That way, we take in a bit about each individual without having to make people a part of our lives who we don’t want to make a part of our lives. Even if it’s a very small part, why risk negative impact?
7. We don’t necessarily shy away from all social interaction; we just know when we won’t have fun and decide not to participate.
We like to have fun; we really do. But more often than not, what most people, extroverts especially, consider fun we consider trivial. We just don’t get the excitement that extroverts get out of many experiences and things.
We know ourselves well because we spend so much time conversing with ourselves, and we do our best to avoid experiences we are certain we won’t enjoy. This sometimes leads to us missing experiences we would enjoy… but that’s why introverts do need to leap in from time-to-time to make sure they still understand their preferences; those tend to change and fluctuate over time.
8. We like puzzles.
Sudoku, crosswords, jigsaws, Ikea furniture… you name it, we enjoy it. Most of us are problem solvers by nature and we like a challenge. Video games are always fun, especially RPGs. This is probably the reason we enjoy mystery novels so much.
9. We believe people to be the best of puzzles.
There really is no better puzzle than a human being, which is another reason we like to observe from a distance. Interacting with a person does tell you quite a bit, but because you have to interact, you lose focus on observing. Hence why we often prefer to observe others interacting. This way, we get a lot more information about a person than we would by simply talking to them.
10. We tend to be very picky about our music.
You may think you listen to music, but we really listen to music. We listen to the lyrics and the melody in detail. We often have music playing in our minds, able to play a song from beginning to finish. When you spend more time inside your head than outside, you’d be surprised what you’re capable of.
11. When we like something, we love it; when we don’t like something, we hate it.
Not all of us are so two-optioned, but a good number of us are to call it an associated trait of introverts. Because we dissect just about everything, we end up clearly defining what we do and don’t like. This leads to us fervently disliking something when we find a detail we don’t like, and very much loving the things we find to our liking. Whether this is good or bad is debatable. But this is a quality Steve Jobs was known for… so it can’t be that bad.
12. We don’t keep many friends, but the bonds we do build are stronger than average.
We have a clearer-than-average understanding of what we like, what we don’t like, what is good for us and what we ought to avoid. This also goes for who we ought to avoid. We may get along well with most people, but that doesn’t mean we want them all to be a part of our lives. We can be very defensive about who we let into our circle of trust.
13. We don’t often let people in, but when we do, we open up like a book.
We like to keep private. We observe others so much, we have a clear understanding of the power of knowledge. For this reason, we keep our distance and we like to keep our personal lives to ourselves. However, if we do brand you as friendly, you will get filled in on just about everything – probably more than you want to even know.
14. You know the quiet-on-the-streets-freak-in-the-sheets type?
Yeah, that’s us. While extroverts may be outwardly active, showy, and even wild on the regular, we don’t; we keep all that energy bundled up, only to let loose with those we get close to – especially those we get intimate with. The fact is, we spend a lot more time thinking about what we want to do to you. So when we get a chance to do it, we have a freakishly creative arsenal of goodies to choose from.
15. We often get lost in our thoughts, even when someone is talking directly to us.
If you are having a conversation with an introvert and he or she is staring directly into your eyes, don’t expect that this person is hearing every word you say. An introvert will get the jist of it, but more likely than not, something you said triggered a thought sequence that he or she got taken away by, like a tidal wave.
This person is still there… somewhere, and he or she will come through at some point, but won’t snap out of it until it’s noticed on his or her own. However, this may take longer than you’d think. But you probably won’t ever realize because we’ve become very good at faking it.
We do like to keep to ourselves a lot of the time, but not all of the time. We’re not quite as asocial as most people would have us believe, but there is a good reason it seems that way from the outside. Most of us have friends who are introverts if we aren’t introverts ourselves.
Understanding introversion is important because most of us have the wrong beliefs when it comes to our less-than outgoing friends.
It’s even more important if you, yourself, are introverted because you very well could be missing out while trying to adhere to some unrealistic definition of yourself as a person. Here are a few habits of those we like to call introverts:
1. We like to take walks. Lots and lots of walks.
We are observers by nature – and what better setting to observe than the outdoors as we stroll by? Our setting of choice will vary from individual to individual, some of us liking urban settings while others preferring mother nature as a walking buddy. Walking is probably our favorite activity because it allows us to think without being interrupted, allows us to observe others and the world around us without being questioned, and gives us some exercise. What could be better?
2. We have no problem lying at home, doing nothing but rummaging through our thoughts.
We like to think… a lot. Sure, you can argue that we all think all the time, but we especially like to be conscious of our thoughts. We like to observe them from a third-person perspective, not as ourselves. We like to think about the way we think about things.
3. Books are our poison of choice… but we like movies, too.
We’re huge fans of stories. They allow us to lead lives we would otherwise never be able to live. We can delve into books, movies, or TV marathons of detectives, serial killers, race car drivers, astronauts, zombie hunters, warlocks… We love to use our imaginations, forming a visual only intensifies our experience.
4. We enjoy talking to people, just not as much as most people do.
Believe it or not, we’re not asocial – at least not most of us. However, don’t necessarily expect us to be going around introducing ourselves to everyone. It’s not that we don’t want to meet them, but we’d prefer to observe them first. Then, after observing and judging them, we (more often than not) don’t want to meet them. But that’s the way it goes for most people; we just don’t even bother making the introduction so it’s less awkward when we decide not to continue or start a conversation.
5. Our minds are our playgrounds – sometimes quite literally.
Some call it their mind palace. Some their castle. Mine, personally, is a giant library. Introverts, with enough practice, are especially talented at creating inner worlds for themselves where they can store their memories, experiences and imaginary ponderings. We can spend hours just roaming about thinking things over and running through old experiences.
Some will argue that it’s better to just focus on living in the moment, but the truth is, most moments aren’t worth living. Why not go back and revisit those that are, or create new ones from scratch?
6. We prefer observing over interacting.
We do like to interact, but only with certain people. We are very picky when it comes to a lot of things, especially individuals we interact with. It’s much more fun for us to simply sit or stand on the sideline for a bit and gaze upon the crowd. That way, we take in a bit about each individual without having to make people a part of our lives who we don’t want to make a part of our lives. Even if it’s a very small part, why risk negative impact?
7. We don’t necessarily shy away from all social interaction; we just know when we won’t have fun and decide not to participate.
We like to have fun; we really do. But more often than not, what most people, extroverts especially, consider fun we consider trivial. We just don’t get the excitement that extroverts get out of many experiences and things.
We know ourselves well because we spend so much time conversing with ourselves, and we do our best to avoid experiences we are certain we won’t enjoy. This sometimes leads to us missing experiences we would enjoy… but that’s why introverts do need to leap in from time-to-time to make sure they still understand their preferences; those tend to change and fluctuate over time.
8. We like puzzles.
Sudoku, crosswords, jigsaws, Ikea furniture… you name it, we enjoy it. Most of us are problem solvers by nature and we like a challenge. Video games are always fun, especially RPGs. This is probably the reason we enjoy mystery novels so much.
9. We believe people to be the best of puzzles.
There really is no better puzzle than a human being, which is another reason we like to observe from a distance. Interacting with a person does tell you quite a bit, but because you have to interact, you lose focus on observing. Hence why we often prefer to observe others interacting. This way, we get a lot more information about a person than we would by simply talking to them.
10. We tend to be very picky about our music.
You may think you listen to music, but we really listen to music. We listen to the lyrics and the melody in detail. We often have music playing in our minds, able to play a song from beginning to finish. When you spend more time inside your head than outside, you’d be surprised what you’re capable of.
11. When we like something, we love it; when we don’t like something, we hate it.
Not all of us are so two-optioned, but a good number of us are to call it an associated trait of introverts. Because we dissect just about everything, we end up clearly defining what we do and don’t like. This leads to us fervently disliking something when we find a detail we don’t like, and very much loving the things we find to our liking. Whether this is good or bad is debatable. But this is a quality Steve Jobs was known for… so it can’t be that bad.
12. We don’t keep many friends, but the bonds we do build are stronger than average.
We have a clearer-than-average understanding of what we like, what we don’t like, what is good for us and what we ought to avoid. This also goes for who we ought to avoid. We may get along well with most people, but that doesn’t mean we want them all to be a part of our lives. We can be very defensive about who we let into our circle of trust.
13. We don’t often let people in, but when we do, we open up like a book.
We like to keep private. We observe others so much, we have a clear understanding of the power of knowledge. For this reason, we keep our distance and we like to keep our personal lives to ourselves. However, if we do brand you as friendly, you will get filled in on just about everything – probably more than you want to even know.
14. You know the quiet-on-the-streets-freak-in-the-sheets type?
Yeah, that’s us. While extroverts may be outwardly active, showy, and even wild on the regular, we don’t; we keep all that energy bundled up, only to let loose with those we get close to – especially those we get intimate with. The fact is, we spend a lot more time thinking about what we want to do to you. So when we get a chance to do it, we have a freakishly creative arsenal of goodies to choose from.
15. We often get lost in our thoughts, even when someone is talking directly to us.
If you are having a conversation with an introvert and he or she is staring directly into your eyes, don’t expect that this person is hearing every word you say. An introvert will get the jist of it, but more likely than not, something you said triggered a thought sequence that he or she got taken away by, like a tidal wave.
This person is still there… somewhere, and he or she will come through at some point, but won’t snap out of it until it’s noticed on his or her own. However, this may take longer than you’d think. But you probably won’t ever realize because we’ve become very good at faking it.
February 17, 2014
February 7, 2014
February 1, 2014
These emotions, ideas, and thoughts become powerful and real only when you become attached to them. When you are attentive to the moment at hand, that is when all those other things disappears. Your freedom and happiness will be determined by your ability to forgive and your ability to express loving-kindness through every deed and thought. To forgive yourself is perhaps the first step. Be good to yourself.
January 25, 2014
January 23, 2014
January 13, 2014
December 10, 2013
i know i shouldn't,
but i'd always think what could have been.
what would happen if i thought we weren't meant to be back then.
what would happen if i just ignored your text.
what would happen if your text was never received.
our choices are what brought us here today,
but yet i still think about that one decision back then.
is it fair for me to put you through all these wait?
cause right now, this moment i am regretting my decision.
December 6, 2013
November 20, 2013
November 11, 2013
November 9, 2013
November 3, 2013
October 14, 2013
September 30, 2013
September 15, 2013
September 14, 2013
September 6, 2013
August 25, 2013
August 13, 2013
August 10, 2013
August 8, 2013
August 7, 2013
August 6, 2013
August 5, 2013
August 4, 2013
August 2, 2013
August 1, 2013
July 31, 2013
July 24, 2013
July 23, 2013
July 1, 2013
June 22, 2013
June 19, 2013
June 3, 2013
看你背面我身体欠自然
看你正面两手失控再颤
看你笑面我开心数夜数天
与你说话我哑口会无言
与你碰面我体温会乱变
与你贴面一世的经典
若你肯再拥抱紧一点
我愿意用我十年
去换我共你十天
要讲你知你的意义
每当我的心肝跳一次
没法知难制止
你是血液深于我每一处
要讲你知我的故事
这一秒即使心再不跳
在记忆潜意识
爱是已在心中永世不变
与你说话我哑口会无言
与你碰面我体温会乱变
与你贴面一世的经典
若你肯再拥抱紧一点
我愿意用我十年
去换我共你十天
要讲你知你的意义
每当我的心肝跳一次
没法知难制止
你是血液深于我每一处
要讲你知我的故事
这一秒即使心再不跳
在记忆潜意识
爱是已在心中永世不变
光阴可以瞬间转数十年
生死起跌也知不会幸免
当中只有爱的感觉未曾变
看你正面两手失控再颤
看你笑面我开心数夜数天
与你说话我哑口会无言
与你碰面我体温会乱变
与你贴面一世的经典
若你肯再拥抱紧一点
我愿意用我十年
去换我共你十天
要讲你知你的意义
每当我的心肝跳一次
没法知难制止
你是血液深于我每一处
要讲你知我的故事
这一秒即使心再不跳
在记忆潜意识
爱是已在心中永世不变
与你说话我哑口会无言
与你碰面我体温会乱变
与你贴面一世的经典
若你肯再拥抱紧一点
我愿意用我十年
去换我共你十天
要讲你知你的意义
每当我的心肝跳一次
没法知难制止
你是血液深于我每一处
要讲你知我的故事
这一秒即使心再不跳
在记忆潜意识
爱是已在心中永世不变
光阴可以瞬间转数十年
生死起跌也知不会幸免
当中只有爱的感觉未曾变
May 15, 2013
May 14, 2013
April 18, 2013
April 17, 2013
April 12, 2013
April 7, 2013
March 29, 2013
March 28, 2013
纪念？
今天，下雨了。
废话，不是下雨就是太阳。
不知不觉，已经过了259天。
我猜，你应该不知道，259天前发生了什么事。
259天前，我和你告白了，因为我已经彻底的放下了另一个。
那时的前几天，我发现自己爱上了你。
‘那么你有了新目标吗？’
有，但不想告诉你。
‘是谁？说来听。’
你真地想知道？
‘嗯。’
是你。
我记得，你很惊讶，还叫我别开玩笑了。
很好笑吗？
不，一点也不好笑。
因为，我是认真的喜欢你。
直到今天，都没变过。
话说回来，今天，也是你离开的137天。
那天，我已经有所感应，一定会有不祥的事发生。
竟然发生了。
那天还跟老豆吵了架，被赶下车。
你的简讯就传来了。
‘能不能问你一个问题？’
可以，但是我大概知道你会问什么了。
‘哪，我们能不能，做会朋友就好了？’
能不能说不？
‘对不起。’
就这样，我到处走，边走边流泪。
想着到底，我做错了什么？
结果，连家也没回到，直到十点晚上。
就这样，哭着，哭着......
若注定不能在一起，为什么要相爱呢？
伟俊
2009年4月21日
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